Do you ever wonder where your particular fears come from? I’ve a thought about this and it’s come to me in different stages of my journey. My fear of water comes from not being able to express my emotions because of my childhood conditioning. Let’s explore this… Fears and Water I love the coolness of water and how it carries my weight and my troubles. I love the therapy and relief it brings to my body. I’m amazed and fascinated by different waters; clear waters, back waters,

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life,” Steve Jobs. I read this quote from Steve Jobs and it brings me back to the thought of dreams in childhood and how we’re often steered away from our dreams and joys. It’s easy to follow convention and follow what we’re told is the best thing for us. It’s a harder path to challenge convention and follow what feels true to your authentic Self. What happened to our childhood dreams? If we were nurtured and guid

What is self-value? Self-value is about the behaviours and actions you carry out and demonstrate towards the things that you value, including your Self. How much do you value your Self? Your time, your health, your wellbeing? Now, spend a few minutes thinking about whether your actions align to your thoughts and beliefs about your own self-value… Did you grow up in an environment or household where your parents and role models always placed value on others, without listening

Do you often find your Self delaying of putting things off until tomorrow? We’re all guilty of this. We have an endless list of things to do and we end up telling ourselves that we’ll do it later or we’ll do it tomorrow. I’m a big believer in tackling urgent and important tasks. Although in order to do that you have to have an understanding of your values and principles, so that you can navigate what’s urgent and important to you. Your task list may be overwhelming and it’s e

Do you believe we're all connected to a collective Oneness or collective Consciousness? Being a sum of the whole, we have to understand and give each other the benefit of doubt of good intentions. That’s not to say we should stay in situations that are not aligned with our True Self or that are abusive. An incident occurred with a friend recently, where instead of just taking a moment to breathe and validate or falsify what was happening, the situation escalated unnecessarily

Let’s start becoming aware of placing our conditions on future generations. Where does ‘good’ or ‘bad’ come from? Children are born innocent without an understanding or structure of ‘good’ and ‘bad’. It’s us, as adults and caregivers who instil the conditions and concept of what’s considered ‘good’ and ‘bad’ in our children. And, whose spectrum do we use? We repeat the cycles of our upbringing by pushing our children to conform to the structures of ‘good’ and ‘bad’ that we we

It’s easy to take on every one else’s thoughts, opinions, emotions and fears when you set up a business that is true to your Self and your purpose. Starting a new business, or leaving ‘employment’ to set up on your own can be nerve-racking and exciting at the same time. You’re excited that you’re perhaps finally doing something that you love, feels true to your nature and purpose (now that you’ve figured out what they are) and at the same time you’re also concerned about succ

Most people think that healing our past is painful. And, whilst reflecting on our past can resurface negative experiences, it’s also the most liberating experience of all. We need to reframe healing and the responsibility of it, so that we avoid creating barriers that stop our growth now and so that we stop passing our pains and fears on to future generations. In childhood, we develop coping mechanisms to protect ourselves from our worst perceived fears. These fears form in o

We all experience fears. Moving through those moments with awareness helps us relieve the mind and body from the ones that are imagined from those that are real. What is fear? Fear is a basic human emotion and triggers the fight or flight survival instinct, which is probably why you want it to pay attention to it as something real. However, fear can be real and imagined. Why do we experience fears? From infancy, we develop an instinct for survival, so when something threatens

Nature can teach us a lot about our lives. When we look closely, nature is a reflection of us. I was observing the trees and was thinking about how much nature endures. Throughout the seasons – the rains and blistering winters, the hail and storms, the new life of spring and the warmth of the summer Sun. Transformation Nature accepts all that comes its way and through the pains and the things it cannot control, there is still rebirth and transformation. The essence of the tre

Here’s how to achieve a healthy work life balance. This past year has been tough on most of us. How do you differentiate your working life from your personal life when you’re working from home? When I was commuting to work, I would literally wake up, get ready and leave. I’d use my commute to either read or listen to a meditation, then work all day and use my commute home to unwind and decompress before I got home. I’d use Saturday mornings to clean the house, which meant I’d

Taking a holistic approach to health and wellness. Many of us get stuck on physical fitness. Am I exercising enough? Have I done enough steps? If I do three workouts a week, then I’ll be healthy right? What about our emotional, mental and spiritual health? What’s your approach to balance your health and wellbeing? Physical fitness Our physical health is only one aspect of our wellness. Whilst, it important to ensure that we are activating our physical body by getting enough e

Giving your Self time in the morning can set you up for a successful day. Use these one hour rituals to get you started.

What people say I met someone who said, “I just want to be happy.” Instinctively, I replied, “Happiness is in the journey.” Many of us think that when we get that promotion, get a raise, find a better job or the right person to share our life with, spend more time alone, socialise more – always the next thing – then we’ll be happy. What about being happy now? Thoughts Let’s start with thoughts. Spending time alone, reflecting, writing and observing our thoughts gives us the o

We’ve all had times when we need to sense check where we’re at in life. It’s easy to get swept up in the day-to-day and forget to check in with ourselves to see if we’re fulfilling our dreams and needs. Adulting unconsciously often means we’re settling for a life rather than creating the life of our dreams. As the infamous Persian poet, Rumi says, “Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray”. When you need to check

Perhaps you were raised by parents who taught you how to give to others... and that's an amazing quality to embody. However, if you find it hard to put your Self first then maybe it's time to break that toxic cycle of endless 'giving', so that when you are able to 'give' to others it comes from a place of awareness and love. Giving to others I came from a place where I was always thinking about others and struggled to learn and understand my own needs and care for my Self. Wh

So what does that even mean? The 'right' people? My parents would say this to me when I was younger and I never quite understood it until a lot later. It's the same principle that successful people and entrepreneurs live by - learning from and being in a high vibrational environment keeps you focused. If you surround your Self with people who have automatic negative thought patterns, are not aligned with their words and actions, do not value or respect themselves, then this i

Most of us want a delicious, conscious, unconditional Love. To me, it's more important to figure out our own wants and needs, who we are as individuals and as Soul beings, instead of living by familial and societial expectations and rules. There's been a couple of times, where if I had been untrue to my Self and living according to these expectations and conditions, I may have settled for less than I deserve. I’ve learnt that reprogramming my belief systems and conditional s

I used to feel guilty about everything… and I mean everything, and most of the time unnecessarily. Feeling that way so often was having an impact on my mental and emotional health and I needed to make a change. Playing with Guilt My friend, Guilt would swing by all the time… Being late for work one morning, not being able to answer the phone to my mum when I was in a work meeting, not being able to meet friends because I already had plans, not reading enough, reading too much

Photo by Kamaji Ogino on Pexels Growing up in a working-class family, we were raised to eat everything on our plates. Wasting food was not an option. I never thought too much about it, until I started observing others. I realised the impact observing waste has on me. I think about the children and families who struggle for food and how much thatbit that he or she or they waste would mean to a family in need. If we want to teach children value and gratitude through conscious